Into my mind

A few months back while visiting a blog site (sorry I don’t remember at the moment)

There was a young girl who was reaching out for – calling for help. At least that is the way

I perceived it. After responding, I re-read what I had written, and wondered if the young girl

would reply back – or even read what I had written at all.

To my surprise she did … I do not know if you eventually took the advise .. but when I re-read again

what I had written, I began to cry because I knew just how important Family – My Family – MY Parents

have always been to me.

I would like to share with you what I wrote then – as it will give you a little bit more insight into the

life of me!

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Entry for September 12, 2007
Someone on another site asked for ‘advise’. When I replied, this is what I wrote and found it somewhat interesting.

I found myslef knowing what I’ve known now for a long time….that parents are your best friends, you can always go to them when you are in trouble. They only want the very best for you, at least mine did and do.

So with that little intro… here is what I wrote to the young girl….who is still either in High School &/or going to college…etc…probably around 17-18, because she called herself ‘adult’.

She was having problems with her Parents ‘rules’ in their house … and her Boyfriend, who she wanted to stay with her in her ‘parents’ house.

So knowing what I know about the troubles of todays young people – with peer pressure from their friends … and how rebelious they can be and are … I felt as usually I don’t do as I did …. REPLY!

Here is what I said .. with corrected wordings!
***Reply Version***

Yes, I am a lot older and have under my belt life experiences.
Being 55, I have had my share of ups and down in this life.
Some I am not proud of. But for the most part, life is and has been exceptional.
I had two brothers and have lost both of them. I am the only ‘girl’ in the family. Both of my parents are still living and going through a rough time now. Dad 82, just found out that he has cancer, and we will find out all the details tomorrow. Mother will have to have surgery, but it is on hold until we find the results about Daddy. ME .. I’ve got Cancer, and have had for 6+ years now.
And another problem has arisen…a few I’ve have previously, and been taken care of to the best they can…but those are long stories.

So with that, now….to your problem.

With my parents, and the way they raised us….I would NOT change anything. If it were to be done all over again, in these days, I would hope that they would do the same.
Be Strick.
Now, that is not to say that I did not have my moments when I wanted to buck them….but I will tell you “Parents, know best”.
I never thought that growing up, when I got older that I would ever say that, but because they DID (and Do) love me more than life itself, after the heartaches they been throught loosing their two sons, nothing (or no one) will ever come close to the love a parent has.
Now-I do not have children, but if I did, I would have done the same with mine as mine did with me!
While you may be ‘18 – adult’ believe me when I say…not adult yet. You have a lot to learn, while you may be older than your years with knowledge and some experiences, there is always growing up to do.
As long as you live in YOUR parents house, It IS Their house, and their rules should be obied. It is to show respect.
If you want respect from your parents, you first must show respect to them. They pay the MORTGAGE on the house.
They pay the UTILITES….PHONE…CABLE….They buy FOOD.
As Long as you are there living, please respect them!
Trust me when I say that You will Thank Them for it later.
And for the boyfriend….Make sure that HE respects You!
He also must RESPECT your Parents. If he does not, then you can do better.
Remember that LOVE is worth WAITING for.
I KNOW THIS.
Love is wonderful and heartbraking….tears & laughter…all rolled into a wonderful memory.
Do not rush your life, when there is so much yet to see and learn.

I hope that my ramblings have helped in some ’small’ way.
I’m not trying to tell you WHAT to do, but giving advise from someone who KNOWS!

Deborah

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Thank You for reading!

Deborah